Room for the relationships that matter to you
You may want to talk about jealousy, agreements, closeness or the pressure of other people’s opinions. I offer individual counselling that respects polyamorous and consensually non-monogamous relationships. We can explore what matters to you without assuming how your relationships should look.
What this can feel like
You may recognise some of these experiences. We can begin with what matters most to you.
Jealousy and insecurity
Trying to understand comparison, uncertainty or fear of losing connection.
Agreements and boundaries
Working out what is genuinely wanted and freely agreed.
Time and energy
Balancing connections while keeping space for your own needs.
New relationships
Navigating excitement, change and the effect on existing connections.
Stigma and disclosure
Deciding who to tell and coping with being misunderstood.
Relationship change
Making sense of broken agreements, distance, endings or changing expectations.
There is room for more than one way to relate
Consensual non-monogamy is an umbrella term for relationship arrangements openly agreed by the people involved. Polyamory commonly involves the possibility of more than one romantic relationship. The words you use and agreements you make are yours to explore.
Jealousy, uncertainty or hurt can be meaningful signals about needs and connection. We can consider them with care, alongside consent, differences in expectations and each person’s freedom to choose.
How therapy can help
I will listen to how your relationships work for you. We can explore your needs, agreements and feelings without assuming that non-monogamy is the problem.
Compassion
Validate your experience and make room for complicated feelings. Explore the impact of judgement, comparison or shame.
Curiosity
Understand your needs, attachment patterns, expectations and agreements. Notice where assumptions or unequal power create strain.
Change
Develop communication and boundaries that fit your values. Consider practical ways to protect time, maintain trust and respond to change.
Relationships with clearer understanding
Change may look like naming a need, making an agreement more explicit, accepting a limit or feeling more secure in choices that fit you.
A little more about this work
Do I need to be sure non-monogamy is right for me?
You can explore questions and uncertainty without being steered towards a particular relationship structure.
Is jealousy a sign that I have failed?
Jealousy can arise for many reasons. We can explore what it means for you and what might support a different response.
Is this individual or couples counselling?
This page describes individual counselling: a space to explore your own experience of relationships, boundaries and decisions.
Explore at your own pace
The longer article below explains this topic in more detail and includes further resources.
Read more about Polyamory, CNM & ENM Counselling →More to explore
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Jealousy, fear of rejection or shame may affect how you feel in a relationship. These pages explore some of the feelings we can talk about together.
Would you like to talk about it?
Send me a short message about what is troubling you. We can talk about what you need and whether counselling with me could help.
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